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The country is such in a somber mood. Add to that the dreariness of this city; no big shops are open on a Good Friday. I prefer to rejoice in my freedom while others are trapped in their tradition. *grin

In my silent corner, I chose to be grateful for what I have now.  I wrote a Haiku as a celebration.

Haiku: Midday

cloud ribbons on wings

dramatic cerulean sky

a feast for the eye.

I’m relieved at least to breathe these words out and they become my own once more.

This Friday is indeed good.

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In these challenging times, we are more pressed to become guided by virtues because these values make us whole in the midst of the wrong we see around us.  In doing our daily business, we have to practice what is right in order to build trust. There is always a crowd before us. We have to do right, even when it is hard to do right.

If we are ethical in our personal life, we will know the difference of behaving in high standards. Personal ethics is the foundation of professional ethics. It will entail us to go by dependability, patience, compassion, loyalty, respect, objectivity and wisdom. These values will be the pillars of our strength as individuals. How do we learn the standard? From growing up, we are taught moral principles, and those things that are right or wrong. As we age, we further learn that conforming to the norms and standards of society provides us better opportunities to advance in our relationships, both personal and in business.

Respect is a word which bears a heavy meaning in all relationships, and without that, good relationships cannot be cultivated. Respect for others breeds tolerance for them even if they don’t share our perspectives. It would be hard to exist in a world where we would always try to change people’s opinions and impose on them our personal judgments.  However, practicing integrity is a choice and living a life of integrity will present us issues to tackle and sacrifices to endure. Nevertheless, our ethical behavior will help create an environment of respect and dignity. If we want to build lasting and wholesome relationships in business, we must align ourselves with the ethical standards of organizations where we belong. Then we would have no need of rules when this is ingrained in our very being.

We can stand tall, when we have integrity. Have you got it on you?


By Richard Templar

Rule 1- Walk your talk

1.    Get your work noticed
2.    Never stand still
3.    Volunteer carefully
4.    Carve out a niche for yourself
5.    Under promise and over deliver
6.    Know something others don’t
7.    Be 100% committed
8.    Enjoy what you are doing
9.    Develop the right attitude
10.  Never let anyone know how hard you work

Rule 2 – Know that you’re being judged at all times

1.    Dress well
2.    Cultivate a smile
3.    No limp fish – develop the perfect handshake
4.    Exude confidence and energy
5.    Develop a style that gets you noticed
6.    Pay attention to personal grooming
7.    Be attractive
8.    Be cool
9.    Speak well
10.  Write well

Rule 3 – Have a plan

1.    Know what you want long term
2.    Know what you want short term
3.    Study the promotion system
4.    Develop a game plan
5.    Set objectives
6.    Know your role
7.    Know yourself – strengths and weaknesses
8.    Identify key times and events
9.    Anticipate threats
10. Look for opportunities

Rule 4- If you can’t say anything nice, shut up

1.    Don’t gossip
2.    Don’t bitch
3.    Stand up for others
4.    Compliment people sincerely
5.    Be cheerful and positive
6.    Ask questions
7.    Use “please” and “thank you”
8.    Don’t swear
9.    Be a good listener
10. Only speak sense

Rule 5- Look after yourself

1.    Know the ethics of your industry
2.    Know the legalities of your industry
3.    Set personal standards
4.    Never lie
5.    Never cover up for anyone
6.    Keep records
7.    Know the difference between the truth & the whole truth
8.    Cultivate your support/contacts/friends
9.    Understand others’ motives
10. Assume everyone else is playing by different rules

Rule 6- Blend in

1.    Know the corporate culture
2.    Speak the language
3.    Dress up or down accordingly
4.    Be adaptable in your dealings with different people
5.    Know where to hang out, and when
6.    Understand the social protocols
7.    Know the rules about authority
8.    Know the rules about the office hierarchy
9.    Never disapprove of others
10.  Understand the herd mentality

Rule 7- Act one step ahead

1.    Dress one step ahead
2.    Talk one step ahead
3.    Act one step ahead
4.    Think one step ahead
5.    Address corporate issues and problems
6.    Talk of “we” rather than “I”
7.    Walk the walk
8.    Spend more time with senior staff
9.    Get people to assume you have already made the step
10.  Prepare for the step after next

Rule 8- Cultivate diplomacy

1.    Ask questions in times of conflict
2.    Don’t take sides
3.    Known when to keep your opinions to yourself
4.    Be conciliatory
5.    Never lose your temper
6.    Never get personal
7.    Know how to handle other people’s anger
8.    Stand your ground
9.    Be objective about the situation
10.  Put things in perspective

Rule 9- Know the system and milk it

1.    Know all the unspoken rules of office life
2.    Know what to call everyone
3.    Know when to stay late & when to go early
4.    Know the theft or perk rule
5.    Identify the people who count
6.    Be on the right side of the people who count
7.    Be well up on new management techniques
8.    Know the undercurrents & hidden agendas
9.    Know the favorites & cultivate them
10. Know the mission statement and understand it

Rule 10- Handle the opposition

1.    Identify the opposition
2.    Study them closely
3.    Don’t back-stab
4.    Know the psychology of promotion
5.    Don’t give too much away
6.    Keep your ear to the ground
7.    Make the opposition seem irreplaceable
8.    Don’t damn the opposition with faint praise
9.    Capitalize on the career enhancing moments
10.  Cultivate the friendship & approval of your colleagues

–Tara


solutions, virtual assistance, tara estacaan, business consultancy

Question: Are you selling your services?

The real deal is, people do not buy your services.  If I may say it candidly, no person buys financial planning, no one buys consultancy, no one buys coaching.

Then what sells?

People buy solutions. Think of this: you do not go to your doctor just to get injected, or to get medicine. You go to your doctor for a solution to something that is ailing you. The medications are simply tools that the doctor uses to treat your health problem. You pay for the doctor’s service because you trust that his diagnosis is the right one. You don’t go to any doctor but the one you have proven to suggest the methods so you can recuperate.

People in the business realm will sense when you are too focused on yourself and only bent on how you can gain from them. This character will not allow you to succeed in fostering business with them on a long term basis.

Consequently, when people know that you are constantly reliable to provide them a solution, people come to you to get your services. Hence, services are not what you are selling. People buy YOU– your competence for handling problems and applying due solutions to your client’s needs.

Take the spotlight away from you and shift that concentration on your clients or customers.

Individuals and likewise, corporations, decide to hire people that they trust can solve their problems for them. They must also know all solutions you can offer to their problems and the results that will take place, if they decide to hire your service.

People, essentially, buy your intelligence and your smarts. They want someone that can transmit a positive impact on their lives and their endeavors. The more you bring focus in perceiving their problems, the more you earn their trust that you are the right person they have to be working with.

In the end, you are actually selling the relationship, that which your client can obtain when they hire you. It is never services you sell as the product itself.

You give first, in order to gain. Goodwill to others, definitely, yields conquest!


2009 was a gorgeous treat for me.

Another year is in store for all of us, one that is full of promise– and I am excited to find new territories to conquer again.  Yet there are more lessons to learn, more people to thank for – my family, the people I work with across the US, and all my friends. The long hours I spent in creative ferment will one day see its prize.

So, alone in this inspired path I would go; tho’ none notice, as I would not require the presence of negative influences *grin. No time to waste on inappreciable company. My rule now: detach from people who are affecting me negatively (at least I hope I can).

Just thankful that I have a clear take on where I want to head for because I have decided to refine my focus on things that will matter to me.

Happy 2010! May this year see us a better person.

All the best,

Tara Estacaan  (**,)


work must have a heart

Communications and technology are quick to evolve, and as a result, more people are finding themselves working online. Interaction between people has eventually changed to computer-to-computer communication. So a crucial part in giving and getting high quality work can start with a pleasant relationship with people one is working with.

In this world of pc-to-pc communication, maintaining a good relationship in the virtual workplace cannot be underrated. Why? What was considered good behavior several years ago, is still considered good behavior today. Values are still values, and they will remain that way. Read on…

Remember your simple courtesies such as “Thank you”. You are interacting with humans, albeit in the virtual setting. Because of this, you need to cultivate a relationship with them. Just when you think that courtesies are not useful anymore, you can be mistaken with that notion. Appreciation and gratitude can never become obsolete. As human beings, we still value kindliness and politeness in the workplace. Rude behavior, will not, in any situation, be an acceptable conduct when working together.

Be reachable. You can get and receive updates through IM, email or any form of communications that you are comfortable with. You may also want to choose the phone over these methods. As long as the team can benefit, select a preferred line of communication to facilitate easy receipt of messages from both your ends.

Your office hours should be a settled thing. It would also be good if you set fixed working hours for the sake of communication. When the other end knows what time to reach you, it will be easy for your client, boss or colleagues to contact you.

Provide status report for your work. It will become easier for others to track where you are progressing in the work that you have been assigned. People still work in teams in the online office. So give your team an idea how far you have gone with the tasks given to accomplish. A timeframe would help you work your pace, as well as, keep track with others’ achievements on a project, too.

Take these as your helpful hints!

Happy working!


pearl

To show your true ability is always,

in a sense, to surpass the limits of your ability,

to go a little beyond them:

to dare, to seek, to invent;

it is at such a moment that new talents

are revealed, discovered, and realized.

–  Simone de Beauvoir

– Tara