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By Richard Templar

Rule 1- Walk your talk

1.    Get your work noticed
2.    Never stand still
3.    Volunteer carefully
4.    Carve out a niche for yourself
5.    Under promise and over deliver
6.    Know something others don’t
7.    Be 100% committed
8.    Enjoy what you are doing
9.    Develop the right attitude
10.  Never let anyone know how hard you work

Rule 2 – Know that you’re being judged at all times

1.    Dress well
2.    Cultivate a smile
3.    No limp fish – develop the perfect handshake
4.    Exude confidence and energy
5.    Develop a style that gets you noticed
6.    Pay attention to personal grooming
7.    Be attractive
8.    Be cool
9.    Speak well
10.  Write well

Rule 3 – Have a plan

1.    Know what you want long term
2.    Know what you want short term
3.    Study the promotion system
4.    Develop a game plan
5.    Set objectives
6.    Know your role
7.    Know yourself – strengths and weaknesses
8.    Identify key times and events
9.    Anticipate threats
10. Look for opportunities

Rule 4- If you can’t say anything nice, shut up

1.    Don’t gossip
2.    Don’t bitch
3.    Stand up for others
4.    Compliment people sincerely
5.    Be cheerful and positive
6.    Ask questions
7.    Use “please” and “thank you”
8.    Don’t swear
9.    Be a good listener
10. Only speak sense

Rule 5- Look after yourself

1.    Know the ethics of your industry
2.    Know the legalities of your industry
3.    Set personal standards
4.    Never lie
5.    Never cover up for anyone
6.    Keep records
7.    Know the difference between the truth & the whole truth
8.    Cultivate your support/contacts/friends
9.    Understand others’ motives
10. Assume everyone else is playing by different rules

Rule 6- Blend in

1.    Know the corporate culture
2.    Speak the language
3.    Dress up or down accordingly
4.    Be adaptable in your dealings with different people
5.    Know where to hang out, and when
6.    Understand the social protocols
7.    Know the rules about authority
8.    Know the rules about the office hierarchy
9.    Never disapprove of others
10.  Understand the herd mentality

Rule 7- Act one step ahead

1.    Dress one step ahead
2.    Talk one step ahead
3.    Act one step ahead
4.    Think one step ahead
5.    Address corporate issues and problems
6.    Talk of “we” rather than “I”
7.    Walk the walk
8.    Spend more time with senior staff
9.    Get people to assume you have already made the step
10.  Prepare for the step after next

Rule 8- Cultivate diplomacy

1.    Ask questions in times of conflict
2.    Don’t take sides
3.    Known when to keep your opinions to yourself
4.    Be conciliatory
5.    Never lose your temper
6.    Never get personal
7.    Know how to handle other people’s anger
8.    Stand your ground
9.    Be objective about the situation
10.  Put things in perspective

Rule 9- Know the system and milk it

1.    Know all the unspoken rules of office life
2.    Know what to call everyone
3.    Know when to stay late & when to go early
4.    Know the theft or perk rule
5.    Identify the people who count
6.    Be on the right side of the people who count
7.    Be well up on new management techniques
8.    Know the undercurrents & hidden agendas
9.    Know the favorites & cultivate them
10. Know the mission statement and understand it

Rule 10- Handle the opposition

1.    Identify the opposition
2.    Study them closely
3.    Don’t back-stab
4.    Know the psychology of promotion
5.    Don’t give too much away
6.    Keep your ear to the ground
7.    Make the opposition seem irreplaceable
8.    Don’t damn the opposition with faint praise
9.    Capitalize on the career enhancing moments
10.  Cultivate the friendship & approval of your colleagues



2009 was a gorgeous treat for me.

Another year is in store for all of us, one that is full of promise– and I am excited to find new territories to conquer again.  Yet there are more lessons to learn, more people to thank for – my family, the people I work with across the US, and all my friends. The long hours I spent in creative ferment will one day see its prize.

So, alone in this inspired path I would go; tho’ none notice, as I would not require the presence of negative influences *grin. No time to waste on inappreciable company. My rule now: detach from people who are affecting me negatively (at least I hope I can).

Just thankful that I have a clear take on where I want to head for because I have decided to refine my focus on things that will matter to me.

Happy 2010! May this year see us a better person.

All the best,

Tara Estacaan  (**,)

Online entrepreneurship. I have decided to pursue this path.

What made me strike on something that many consider hard to follow through? My reasons are a-plenty and they are all valid reasons for me.

My raison d’etre, they will justify why I am taking a different route this time.

1. Though I am not driven back with the idea that I can work for a company or for someone else, I just realized that I will be stuck evermore in a corporate chair, with limited income and a dim salary prospect.

2. An 8-hour office job failed to bring the kind of satisfaction that I thought it will provide me. Aside from that, it has become so tiring that work becomes dragging. When you are working for someone, you get up at least 2 hours earlier, prepare for work, take a ride from home and back again. I arrive at the office tired, and return home depleted— both the pocket and my energy reserve.

3. I am disillusioned with office politics. Corporate culture is stifling talent more instead of enhancing it, and there are no more better opportunities that can be seen. It is repulsive and downright ugly. It reminds me of dogs that fight over a piece of meat.

4. I become my own boss. Come to think of it. I make my own decisions, and choose the people I like to do business with. I can also choose what service and products to render, like the ones where I am good at.

5. I can handle my own team and manage them the way I think is proper. I become involved in conceptualizing things that are good for my business. I am in charge, and I make the right contribution to what can be called mine.

6. I obtain quality in my personal life. I can choose the time I work, where I go for vacations, without begging anyone to allow me to take a leave from work.

These things provide me a clear motive why I am going to make this a gainful engagement. Though I cannot guarantee that everything will become smooth, I will see to it that my efforts will be productive.

I am no longer a work junkie of the corporate world. Energized by this new light, I give cheers to new possibilities!


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Behavior flare-ups at work are not petty.

Personality clashes can undermine productivity at work. If left unmediated, it can explode to risky confrontations. This situation can bring unfortunate effects in team morale and in work routines. It can cost you your business.

A manager may not be aware that workplace conflicts should be given adequate attention. Since getting involved in conflicts can easily be dismissed as a person’s inability to get along with others, managers leave these people to take care of themselves and nurture bad feelings toward their peers. Managers may not want to meddle in the personal lives of employees. However, if the problem affects how the job is being treated, then there is appropriate reason why a leader should give attention to destructive workplace behavior.

Causes of ego collision on the job can stem from constant restructuring, and a heightened competition from among its personnel. A fast paced work can also cause more stress and result to more tension. The need for more output using lesser resources in a short time can produce anxiety and fear in workers.

Sometimes, there are also personalities in an office finding fulfillment in bullying others, exacting their dominance over people. A person’s glaring need to exercise control can be a strong motivation and if we be allowed to label this, it is an obsession. An extreme liking to hold power over individuals is a trait uncalled for, and needless to say, a dominance done at all costs. Hence, fuses can ignite and tempers can be very volatile inside highly charged work environments.

Some triggers may also include:

•    prejudices based on race, age or culture
•    intolerance of the nature of others
•    false pride
•    performance ratings/bonuses
•    intimidation to status
•    discrimination by management
•    misplaced loyalties (to people instead of the organization)
•    old grudges
•    alcoholism

Management action should be applied immediately when conflict between personalities becomes more widely apparent for everyone to see. But mediators must also know how to provide the right intervention technique so mediation will not backfire. Leaders also, may need to learn strategies on how to treat people fairly, so that clashes among personnel can be sidestepped.

Until leadership is mature enough to face this challenge and look the real problem in the eye, an organization may have to continue to experience behavioral crisis in some of its ranks.



A hint to micromanagers: When you look at people too closely, you will surely find flaws.

I would like to identify zero-target managing, a serious case of micro-managing as sub-atomic managing. Ever heard of that word, sub-atomic? Well, here it is now, I’m telling you.

Once the staff is being treated poorly at work— that’s zeroing on at the false target. If results are low, it could be that the unfortunate personnel is not being negligent at work, but just frustrated at infinitesimal how-to-do details that are handed.

Hindered. A worker cannot carry out what one is supposed to achieve. This can be the upshot of managers overly-communicating with them. Things can get confusing on which task to do first, and precisely in the manner that was given.

When the nature of work inclines with the creative, micromanaging is a creativity-killer. Do not expect good results when people are given the impression that they are not trusted for what they can do.

Seasoned personnel can feel low in morale when a micromanager steps into the scenario, telling everyone what to do, step by step, line by line. They feel let-down with the fact that they get no good completion at tasks plus they often get reprimanded for not doing the manager’s minute method of doing things.

The issue of micromanaging is indication of the manager’s distrust on people.  Disregarding the staff’s efficiency and problem solving skills makes a slump in the organization’s total performance. Everyone suffers when micromanagers are actively pursuing their responsibilities.

On the contrary, status checking and reporting can be set on a regular basis so the flow of work can be tracked down. Follow-up and ask if person assigned needs support or experiencing some problems with the task. It would be better to delegate work while the manager supplies the tools. Focus on the results that workers can furnish at the end of the day. Everyone has unique ways of accomplishing work; it does not have to be mechanical.

Managers will develop efficient employees when they are allowed to absorb job knowledge and make decisions. People were hired, primarily to do their jobs. Now let them.

We meet all kinds of character that enrich our life. No matter how bad an encounter may be, there is always a reason to learn from that experience. We are spectators to the actions and preferences of other people and it would suffice to say, that is their own choice. We are not here to make demands on others to function in the ways that we like them to. Our reality is important but so does the other person’s.

How do you make people feel? Do they see and feel you as somebody to be scared of, or someone who makes them like themselves more. Are you that person who has the knack to help others feel the best in themselves?

If you like yourself, you will receive the same response from others, too. Beautiful things only thrive well in pleasant surroundings. If you want to create good relationships, start it with positive things.

What is the value of judging others poorly? There is no value, nor virtue in that. If you find all faults in people, surely, you will receive the same from them. Belittle people and you will get negative reactions. It will not make you to like yourself more. Throw mud at others and you get plenty of mud on your hands too. It creates a crack in your personality, the more you engage in flinging dirty, cheap and hurtful things to people, the more  miserable life gets.

If you have been a victim of some people’s resentment, remember, it is alright to grieve a little. However, that is not about you. It’s about them. He that is cruel troubleth his own flesh. And look further, you will know the sadness and suffering that person has. See the sad history of those who like to put you down, including the choices they made. Surely you will not find yourself rushing to get back at that person, if you realize that he/she is a hurting individual.

Learn to let people give to you, favors or compliments, or sometimes, simply, a smile. Smile back. Sincerely. Help people experience how good it is to have you in their life. Let them realize, that their world becomes better and their burdens lighter when they are with you.